X Why Explained
Truth. Understanding. Freedom. X Why Explained turns the lights on for men who know that something is not right, who can’t understand their behaviour and feel trapped in fractional sexual addiction, suffocated by shame, isolated and confused. This podcast will help restore dignity and purity to help to make you a better, healthier man. Please feel free to contact the host with any questions, comments or other feedback you may have via email at xwhyexplained@gmail.com
Episodes

May 2, 2025
May 2, 2025
19 min
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast. (30 seconds)

Apr 18, 2025
Apr 18, 2025
12 min
Special Good Friday episode.
Usually, I read to you from my novel, Love Sick Love, but today I want to step back a bit and tell you a little of my story. Where did the novel come from? Where did this podcast come from? What’s underpinning it all? If you only ever listen to one episode of X Why Explained, make sure it’s this one.

Apr 4, 2025
Apr 4, 2025
16 min
X Why Explained is a podcast which aims to bring truth, light, and understanding to men in the arena of sex and relationships. In each episode author D.A. Cairns will bring challenging insights designed to help bring healing and wholeness to this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast.

Mar 21, 2025
Mar 21, 2025
15 min
Two years divorced and she still won’t talk to me.
I have accepted responsibility for what I did, but my ex has not. In her eyes, she is the perpetual victim and I am the everlasting villain.
It was fun while it lasted
If you like the kind of fun which is laced with anxiety and guilt. Call it fun if you like, but if you’ve had an affair, think about...was it really?

Mar 11, 2025
Mar 11, 2025
16 min
X Why Explained is about turning the lights on, speaking truth, breaking addiction.

Feb 21, 2025
Feb 21, 2025
19 min
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast.

Feb 7, 2025
Feb 7, 2025
20 min
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast

Jan 24, 2025
Jan 24, 2025
20 min
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast.

Jan 10, 2025
Jan 10, 2025
17 min
In each episode of X Why Explained author D.A. Cairns aims to bring truth and light to men in the arena of sex and relationships, bringing challenging insights designed to help healing and wholeness in this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast.

Dec 27, 2024
Dec 27, 2024
14 min
X Why Explained is a podcast which aims to bring truth, light, and understanding to men in the arena of sex and relationships. In each episode author D.A. Cairns will bring challenging insights designed to help bring healing and wholeness to this area of manhood which for many men is characterised by dysfunction, pain, and shame. If you’re a man who doesn’t understand his behaviour or a woman who doesn’t understand the behaviour of men, you’ve picked the right podcast.







