X Why Explained

#25 Your thoughts are locked up inside your head

In the podcast episode "X Why Explained #25," host David's core message is about the importance of communication. He argues that bottling up thoughts is harmful and that sharing them, even if difficult, is crucial. He also addresses emotional manipulation, suggesting men need a strategy to handle it. A key piece of advice is for couples to write down and discuss their expectations, which he sees as the root of many marital problems. The episode concludes by noting that relationships don't fail overnight; they experience a "slow fade."

#24 The Usual Trepidation

This podcast episode explores how problems in a marriage, like infidelity and a lack of communication, can cause a spouse to feel dread about coming home. It also discusses how romantic love can be fleeting and highlights the danger of ignoring problems until they become too big to handle.

#23 A Familiar Tightrope

In this episode of "X Why Explained," host David discusses his journey out of pornography addiction. He explains that addiction is a "familiar tightrope" and a cycle of hurting and shame, requiring an addict to first admit they have a problem. He also touches on how men often communicate, and how a comfortable silence with a partner is a positive sign. Finally, he shares how his Christian faith helped him overcome his struggles.

#22 Long Dead Roman Philosophers

I’m guessing you’re here because you want some answers. Either that or you’re just curious. If you’re curious, you’ll quickly get an idea of what kind of podcast this is and you’ll decided if its your cup of tea or not. I know there’s lot of competition for people’s ears and eyes. If you’re hearing looking for answers, I’m going to have to ask you to keep an open mind. I should also warn you that some of the content in this podcast may be triggering. You’ve got a problem. You know it and now that you’ve admitted it to yourself, it’s time to take the next step. Problems need to be solved, right?

#21 Perhaps she thinks it's safer

I’m just trying to help. I reckon there are a lot of men who are really struggling with various sexual issues and they are fighting their battles alone. Maybe that’s you. I get it. The double life. The things you do in secret, hoping no one ever finds out. The shame. The cycle of addiction. I understand you. I’m not just saying it., I’ve experienced it. I’m here to help.
 
This is how I roll on X Why Explained. I read from my book Love Sick Love which is a novel I wrote during the end of my marriage. Then I pull out some interesting lines and I get into the weeds little.

#20 Something weird is going on between us

Maybe, you’re the bloke who’s depressed. Maybe it’s a friend of yours. Maybe a work mate. There’s only one way out of the dark pit. Look up if you can and ask for help, or each and pull someone up. I’ve had so very low times but I cant say I’ve ever suffered depression, but I acknowledge it as a debilitating condition and as much as I can, I want t be a part f the solution. This is a worthy goal as a man. Why not make it yours?

19 Listen to the whole story before making up your mind

Even though, we all want it to be simple, life is complicated. And life is mostly about relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly. X Why Explained podcast is here to help and the first step to solving a problem is identifying it. Know your enemy. How many of you know you have enemies? Unseen enemies. Let’s get into it. I’m going to read a bit from my novel, Love Sick Love, then talk about some of the issues that come up.

#18 When I think of her, I’m not thinking about sex

Even though, we all want it to be simple, life is complicated. And life is mostly about relationships, the good, the bad and the ugly. X Why Explained podcast is here to help and the first step to solving a problem is identifying it. Know your enemy. How many of you know you have enemies? Unseen enemies. Let’s get into it. I’m going to read a bit from my novel, Love Sick Love, then talk about some of the issues that come up.

#17 If I Knew What She was Thinking

Author D.A.Cairns reads from his novel Love Sick Love and discusses some important issues relating to sex and relationships.

#16 A Hungry Unhappiness

G’day. My name’s David. Thanks for joining me. I’m going to read to you from my novel Love Sick Love, then I’m going to talk to you about some of the stuff that comes up. Love Sick Love is fiction. It is not a true story, but it could be. It could be your story.