X Why Explained

#35 Money for Sex

In this episode of X Why Explained, David explores the addictive nature of transactional sex and online pornography. Reflecting on his novel Love Sick Love, he confesses how a deep-seated need for attention led to a "slave-to-sin" cycle. While acknowledging the choice involved in sex work, he warns against the animalistic devaluation of people. David ultimately finds hope through recovery and faith.
 
A Porn Recovery Program - The Freedom Fight
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Podcasts I'm listening to these days:
 
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#34 Why Aussie Men Love Asian Women

In this follow-up, David explores why some Australian men intentionally seek out Asian partners, categorizing these relationships as either "intentional" or "incidental." He examines the role of traditional values, like Yin and Yang, and challenges myths regarding submissiveness and sexuality. Ultimately, he suggests that some men pursue these relationships seeking traditional domestic roles or ego boosts, while emphasizing that individual motivations vary widely
 
A Porn Recovery Program - The Freedom Fight
https://thefreedomfight.org/about/
 
Podcasts I'm listening to these days:
 
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#33 Stay Away

In this episode of X Why Explained, David discusses the importance of avoiding external temptations to protect marriage, emphasizing accountability over willpower. He reflects on the complexities of significant age gaps in relationships and shares his personal journey of overcoming a spirit of anger through faith, while continuing to battle with lust and seeking spiritual completion.
 
A Porn Recovery Program - The Freedom Fight
https://thefreedomfight.org/about/
 
Podcasts I'm listening to these days:
 
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#32 A Curiousity to Me

This episode of X Why Explained sees host David read from his novel, Love Sick Love, discussing how discovering his father's pornography at age 11 sparked a harmful curiosity and sexual shame, contributing to viewing women as objects. He connects this early exposure and subsequent emotional turmoil to the escalation of addiction and sexual violence (citing Australian statistics). Finally, he addresses the argument against God's existence due to suffering, offering "free will" and the "purposefulness of suffering" as complex, partial explanations.
 
A Porn Recovery Program - The Freedom Fight
https://thefreedomfight.org/about/
 
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#31 It Makes me shudder

In this episode, David reads from Love Sick Love to analyze addiction’s emotional warning signs. He addresses the "stupidity" of self-delusion and strongly rejects modern inclusivity regarding gender and sexuality. Citing statistics on image-based abuse, he argues that pornography consumption directly fuels exploitation. He urges men to reject these norms, stop contributing to abuse, and seek recovery.
 
A Porn Recovery Program - The Freedom Fight
https://thefreedomfight.org/about/
 
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#30 Lustance

Host David reads from his novel, Love Sick Love, to explore complex male behavior. He coins "Lustance," describing the confusing mix of lust and romance, and warns that willpower alone fails against sexual addiction, urging men to seek help instead of surrendering. He cautions against "fighting to the conclusion" in harmful pursuits, stressing that determination is only admirable if the goal doesn't cause broken hearts and fractured relationships. He calls for men to step up and be better.
He highlights the difference between destructive worldly sorrow and godly sorrow which leads to repentance. Drawing on therapy and scripture, he explains how acknowledging shame can drive positive change, encouraging other men to seek freedom from addiction and secrets by walking in the light.
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#29 Buried under Shame

Host David discusses courage, defining it as acting despite fear, and shares his experience using vulnerability to overcome shame related to past sexual misconduct.
He highlights the difference between destructive worldly sorrow and godly sorrow which leads to repentance. Drawing on therapy and scripture, he explains how acknowledging shame can drive positive change, encouraging other men to seek freedom from addiction and secrets by walking in the light.
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#28 Can we part as friends?

In "X Why Explained #28," David explores why it's tough to remain friends with an ex, stating that sex creates a bond. He then argues that expectations are the root of relationship problems, urging men to communicate their needs and listen to their partner's. Finally, while leaving a marriage may be necessary, he challenges listeners to consider if they've truly done everything to reconcile first.

#27 Easy as That

When conflict arises, it's easy to let arguments escalate, but exhibiting self-control means putting the "fire" out immediately. People can feel invisible and ignored, but we shouldn't intentionally choose the darkness of hiding; instead, choose the light and "see" others. Lastly, using euphemisms like a "dalliance" to minimize a wrong like cheating is simply being dishonest.

#26 I'm Bored Again

Host David dissects the flimsy excuse of "I’m Bored Again" for bad online behavior, then discusses webcam models, urging men to view them as someone's daughter to break the cycle of objectification. He critiques the materialistic view of people as just "potential clients" based on utility. Finally, he addresses the shame of addiction, likening it to a "dog returning to its vomit" (Proverbs 26:11), offering Romans 8:1 as the Christian antidote to self-condemnation. The overall goal is to induce sorrow deep enough to lead to recovery.