X Why Explained

#31 It Makes me shudder

In this episode, David reads from Love Sick Love to analyze addiction’s emotional warning signs. He addresses the "stupidity" of self-delusion and strongly rejects modern inclusivity regarding gender and sexuality. Citing statistics on image-based abuse, he argues that pornography consumption directly fuels exploitation. He urges men to reject these norms, stop contributing to abuse, and seek recovery.
 
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Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#30 Lustance

Host David reads from his novel, Love Sick Love, to explore complex male behavior. He coins "Lustance," describing the confusing mix of lust and romance, and warns that willpower alone fails against sexual addiction, urging men to seek help instead of surrendering. He cautions against "fighting to the conclusion" in harmful pursuits, stressing that determination is only admirable if the goal doesn't cause broken hearts and fractured relationships. He calls for men to step up and be better.
He highlights the difference between destructive worldly sorrow and godly sorrow which leads to repentance. Drawing on therapy and scripture, he explains how acknowledging shame can drive positive change, encouraging other men to seek freedom from addiction and secrets by walking in the light.
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#29 Buried under Shame

Host David discusses courage, defining it as acting despite fear, and shares his experience using vulnerability to overcome shame related to past sexual misconduct.
He highlights the difference between destructive worldly sorrow and godly sorrow which leads to repentance. Drawing on therapy and scripture, he explains how acknowledging shame can drive positive change, encouraging other men to seek freedom from addiction and secrets by walking in the light.
Podcasts I'm listening to these days.
Today on Radio with Dr Charles Stanley
Undeceptions
The Unplayable podcast (cricket)
The Point of Purity (The Purity Coach)
Pure Desire (Pure Desire Ministries)
Christian Podcast for Men (Real Men Connect)

#28 Can we part as friends?

In "X Why Explained #28," David explores why it's tough to remain friends with an ex, stating that sex creates a bond. He then argues that expectations are the root of relationship problems, urging men to communicate their needs and listen to their partner's. Finally, while leaving a marriage may be necessary, he challenges listeners to consider if they've truly done everything to reconcile first.

#27 Easy as That

When conflict arises, it's easy to let arguments escalate, but exhibiting self-control means putting the "fire" out immediately. People can feel invisible and ignored, but we shouldn't intentionally choose the darkness of hiding; instead, choose the light and "see" others. Lastly, using euphemisms like a "dalliance" to minimize a wrong like cheating is simply being dishonest.

#26 I'm Bored Again

Host David dissects the flimsy excuse of "I’m Bored Again" for bad online behavior, then discusses webcam models, urging men to view them as someone's daughter to break the cycle of objectification. He critiques the materialistic view of people as just "potential clients" based on utility. Finally, he addresses the shame of addiction, likening it to a "dog returning to its vomit" (Proverbs 26:11), offering Romans 8:1 as the Christian antidote to self-condemnation. The overall goal is to induce sorrow deep enough to lead to recovery.

#25 Your thoughts are locked up inside your head

In the podcast episode "X Why Explained #25," host David's core message is about the importance of communication. He argues that bottling up thoughts is harmful and that sharing them, even if difficult, is crucial. He also addresses emotional manipulation, suggesting men need a strategy to handle it. A key piece of advice is for couples to write down and discuss their expectations, which he sees as the root of many marital problems. The episode concludes by noting that relationships don't fail overnight; they experience a "slow fade."

#24 The Usual Trepidation

This podcast episode explores how problems in a marriage, like infidelity and a lack of communication, can cause a spouse to feel dread about coming home. It also discusses how romantic love can be fleeting and highlights the danger of ignoring problems until they become too big to handle.

#23 A Familiar Tightrope

In this episode of "X Why Explained," host David discusses his journey out of pornography addiction. He explains that addiction is a "familiar tightrope" and a cycle of hurting and shame, requiring an addict to first admit they have a problem. He also touches on how men often communicate, and how a comfortable silence with a partner is a positive sign. Finally, he shares how his Christian faith helped him overcome his struggles.

#22 Long Dead Roman Philosophers

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